“Have It Your Way”

Does everything always have to be your way?

I remember a former friend of mine who used to say that if the world thought like her it would be better off. This person had no problems projecting their views on me and became upset when I didn’t agree. I guess you can tell why I had to let go of the friendship. But how many of us treat others this way in our relationships?

There are so many layers to us that when we come together (e.g., in marriage, friendships, etc.) with our feelings, history, and views without the consideration for the other person, things can become messy and possibly toxic.

When my son and I go to a burger restaurant to eat, he likes to order ketchup, mustard, and lettuce on his patty. I prefer everything except for mayonnaise and tomato. Someone else may say something totally different down to a plain burger. See, you can choose to have it your way” like the old Burger King slogan when it’s just for you (even here we should still involve God), but when you’re entering into a relationship with someone else it is important to consider the other person.

In Psalm 139:13 -14, David says For you formed my inward parts; you knitted me together in my mother’s womb. I praise you, for I am fearfully and wonderfully made. Wonderful are your works; my soul knows it very well. In addition, the Holy Spirit gives each of us gifts (1 Cor 12:1-13). We cannot even praise God without Him. This is what makes us unique and special.

David recognizes that he is wonderfully made by the Creator because God doesn’t make anything less than that, so shouldn’t we do the same when interacting with others. Their ways may not be ours; however, the person is not less than because they do not think or act the way we do. They are wonderfully made too. Therefore…

before you decide to EXIT

choose to turn or run to God instead for the answer.
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A lot of relationships end that could have been salvaged due to exiting. All things are possible with God. When two people cannot see eye to eye, it’s always best to turn to the Creator and ask What does God say?  I guarantee His Way is always best because He made us (Gen 1:27), has the plan for us (Jer 29:11), and is ALL WISDOM (Prov 2:6)

The enemy wants to keep us in confusion and at odds with each other. This is how he can cause separation. God has called us to be at peace with one another (Romans 12:18).

I have heard couples who have been married for what seems like a lifetime say, “Do you want to be right or do you want to have peace?” So many of us must be right or have it our way all the time, but I want to remind you today that you were bought at a price (1 Cor 6:20). Jesus Christ paid our sin debt when He went to the cross for us.  He himself bore our sins on the cross (1 Peter 2:24). Thank God for Jesus! You do not belong to yourselves but to God (1 Cor 6:19). God may give us free will to come to Him; however, everything on this earth belongs to Him (Psalm 24:1). He is the Creator. He has the final say. So, is it really your way? No. Then that disagreement doesn’t really matter.

Pursue peace. God is peace.  It is one of the fruits of His Spirit (Gal 5:22-23). 

If you are not saved, please visit my Salvation Prayer page. These promises can be for you too by accepting God’s free gift of salvation today. Jesus Christ has already paid the price. Welcome Him into your heart today.

In closing, I want to share a comment a popular radio personality said this week during his devotional segment. He said, “When you get out of line, God will save your place. When we get back in line and want to skip ahead, people will look at us like where are you going…but God holds your place in line.” I thought this was so profound to share. It illuminated the love and mercy our God has for us. God is love. I cannot live without Him.

If you have made a mistake in a relationship, go to God in prayer and ask for His guidance. Remember, we may fall short, but God is holding our spot in line.

Love you all in Christ,
Ayesha L. Shoulders

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5 thoughts on ““Have It Your Way”

  1. Excellent message, unfortunately that’s our human nature to be self-absorbing with our needs. If only I knew then what I know now. Winning the disagreement doesn’t mean you won anything but determined your own set back. Peace is bliss, I’d rather loose an argument and grow in love any day.
    1 Corinthians 14:33 comes to my mind.
    Thanks for today’s message, a sure way to develop self improvement & work on self.
    Be Intentional ❤️❤️❤️

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  2. This is so to the point. That’s why I thank God every day for being in my life. Because I know in my heart that I my self is lost without God in my life. Therefore I ask him to guide my steps every day. Thank you my daughter for saying what God has put into your heart. Love you momma.

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